The biggest problem someone can have is blaming other people for their problems. I have come to realization after listening to my clients describe their legal and life issues to me: women claiming they cannot support their children on their $5,000 per month child support payments; men with no education and no skills complaining that they cannot find a job to pay their child support; boys complaining that they had to punch the person who was rude to them at a bar.

Unfortunately, I have not yet been able to find a way to tactfully communicate to these people that the they are only ones in their way. Because my clients are paying me, direct confrontation most often only leads to losing their business. But, anything less does not seem to get the point across.

When nothing is your fault, you will feel no need to change, no need to improve, no need to do anything other than to keep repeating their obvious mistakes.